I am often asked… How can I be more elegant?
The reality is that elegance is more than how you dress or move. I created The Elegant Tone to help The Elegance Community set the tone for the day (or week) so that we can all feel and be more elegant.
This week’s elegant tone is all about thinking before you speak
Thinking before you speak is a skill and it takes time to learn. Sometimes when we respond before we process what is happening; we react emotively. This can lead to unintentional miscommunications or saying something negative or unkind.
So what can we do to think about what we say before we say it?
Take a breath before you respond
This way you give yourself time to think about what you’re about to say and how you react.
Ask yourself questions.
Ask yourself questions in your mind before responding:
- Did I understand what they just said?
- Is what I’m about to say negative or could it be misunderstood?
- How do I want to respond to that?
- How do I really feel about that?
Count to five
Give yourself time to react internally and assure you are communicating directly and effectively.
This is especially helpful when responding to a sensitive situation so you do not insult someone, or come across as negative.
I hope these tips are helpful as we strive to be more effective communicators and ever more elegant individuals.
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